Friday 08:42, Northern Line, London
Have you ever felt like everything is going wrong? Like the world, whether it’s home, work or life in general, is against you? Or if not directly against you, at the very least trying its very best to trip you up, leaving you falling or worse, flat faced, with your desire, ambition and future yet another step further away?
Sometimes, life just sucks. Yep, it just sucks big time. I’m mean BIG time. As a matter of fact, this week has been real though for family, friends, colleagues and fellow MBA students. I’m not a big believer in coincidences, but there sure was something happening on our little planet this week. For me, life has sucked as I’ve been sick for almost a week now and I can’t afford not to run at 200% at work nor miss my 15 hours of studying per week. But I have. And it just sucks. And while rolling around in all of this sucktivity is sometimes a necessary step to feeling better; a ritual of sorts, after which you emerge stronger-willed, more determined and with a newly found focus, it’s definitely not good to dwell here for too long.
Feelings of despair, confusion and misery or plain insecurity for that matter will eventually turn against you and all the things that suck in your life will soon end up sucking the life out of you.
So what’s there to do?
Well, I don’t profess to know how to solve everyone’s problems, and it sure is way easier to dish out advice when your own world is relatively problem-free. But I’m a strong believer in two concepts and those are action and acceptance, and understanding their true power will help turn your blue day a bit rosier.
Action is needed for everything as without it we’re stuck in the proverbial rut, the status quo. If we act on something, however big or small, we challenge this status quo and our action becomes the first step towards taking a bit of control back in our lives. And that first step can be really hard sometimes, but once it is taken, life tends to fall back in its place.
Acceptance is also an essential aspect of our daily survival kits. Sometimes things will inevitably go south and when they do it’s important to realise that there are a few things we can’t change and accepting this very fact is our first step in moving onwards and upwards. This is easier said than done and requires emotional intelligence and maturity. Sometimes we have it, sometimes we don’t – but if you don’t accept things that you can’t control, you’re destined to be stuck in a bad place for a while.
Whilst I realise all of this may come across as quite simplistic I still think there’s some value in this. If your work situation, an incident at work or a family issue seems overcomplicated, well, try simplifying it and accept what you have no control over and act on the things you can change.
You’ll feel better and may be a step closer to finding your next job, rolling out a new idea at work or facing up to a horrible boss.